Our Story

A story of hope, healing and the path to parenthood

Introduction: Why I’m Sharing This

Everyone has a story, and for me, sharing ours has become an important part of the healing process. Infertility is deeply personal—often invisible—and something many couples go through in silence. It took time, courage, and many tears to feel ready to open up. But if our journey can offer comfort, guidance or hope to just one other person navigating this path, then sharing it is more than worth it.

This is for anyone who feels alone in their struggle to conceive. You are not alone.

When Dreams Meet Reality

We’ve always dreamed of having a family. I often imagined children running around our home, playing in the yard, giggling at the dinner table, and the joy of cuddles after a long day. Living on the family farm where I grew up, I pictured our children enjoying the same free-range childhood I had—barefoot in the dirt, surrounded by nature.

After getting married, we waited a few years before trying to conceive. We wanted financial stability and time together after years of long-distance living. I left my job, began working from home, and for the first time in our 12-year relationship, we were under the same roof every night.

When we started trying, I felt calm and hopeful. I was in my late 20s, healthy, had regular 28-day cycles, and had never taken the contraceptive pill. I thought it would happen naturally.

But it didn’t.

 The Hidden Struggle

As months passed with no positive pregnancy test, I began to feel a quiet sense of worry. Still, I waited. I’m naturally patient, and part of me thought I was overthinking. But with time, the disappointment became harder to ignore.

For a while, only my older sister knew what we were going through. I made up excuses for medical appointments and avoided certain conversations. As my siblings had their children—and then their second—I realised I couldn’t keep our struggle to myself any longer.

The emotional weight of it all was starting to affect my daily life. I confided in my mum. Behind my smile, I was hurting—feeling isolated, guilty, and convinced I was to blame.

Seeking Answers

Eventually, I booked my first doctor’s appointment. She explained the basics of ovulation, but I already knew them—I had been charting my cycle for months. She told me to keep trying.

Months passed, and I tried again with a different doctor. This time, the experience felt cold and rushed. He ordered a progesterone test, which confirmed I was ovulating, and referred me to a gynaecologist. But something didn’t feel right. I cancelled the appointment and requested a referral to a fertility clinic instead.

At that stage, I still felt in my gut there was more we could explore naturally. I wanted to know the “why” behind our challenges—not just jump to a solution.

A Natural Path

During this time, I came across the Fertility Focus Telesummit. I was waking up at 4am to listen to experts from around the world. My inbox quickly filled with newsletters, articles, and research. It was overwhelming, but empowering. There were other paths—and I wanted to try them first.

I began seeing a local homeopath and naturopath, and we addressed some nutritional deficiencies. After six months, I felt ready to move on and try acupuncture. I loved the experience and later brought my husband along too. After nine months, our acupuncturist recommended we consult a fertility specialist and suggested acupuncture support during IVF if we chose that route.

We booked an appointment with a clinic in Adelaide and, at the same time, met with a naturopath recommended by my long-time friend and nutritionist, Maria Lucey. It marked the beginning of some big lifestyle shifts. The fertility specialist ran tests, and everything came back normal. While that should have been good news, I left feeling disappointed. I just wanted answers.

Turning Point

I had been following natural fertility expert Gabriela Rosa for over a year after joining her email list and taking part in her online fertility challenge. Her insights had already shifted my mindset, but after receiving an email inviting couples to apply for her program, I took a leap.

We were one of 20 couples selected from over 100 applicants worldwide. Both of us committed 100%, determined to leave no stone unturned.

We were assigned our own naturopath, Alison, and began a new round of testing. This time, we uncovered important information—things no one else had found:

  • Insulin resistance

  • High glucose levels

  • MTHFR gene mutations (both of us)

  • One haemochromatosis gene (me)

  • Subclinical hypothyroidism

  • Polycystic ovaries

None of these had ever been mentioned to me before, and yet they significantly impact fertility.

We started a tailored program of detoxing, supplementation, and lifestyle changes. In 6 months, I lost 10kg and my husband lost 24kg. A follow-up ultrasound showed my polycystic follicles had reduced by half. My thyroid stabilised after 18 months of consistent treatment.

We also ruled out immunological factors and addressed one minor issue found during an endometrial biopsy. Every small step was moving us closer to the goal.

Where We Are Now

We continue to live a healthy lifestyle and maintain the changes we’ve made. I’m so grateful for everything we now know—because without it, any IVF attempts we might have tried earlier could have failed.

For us, IVF was never off the table, but we didn’t want to rush into it. It’s only been in the last two years that we’ve begun exploring it seriously—once we felt ready emotionally and financially. I believe IVF can be a powerful tool, but it shouldn’t always be the first step. Combining natural and medical approaches, and understanding the whole-body picture, can make a huge difference.

For now, our journey continues. We still dream of holding our precious baby one day soon, and when that moment comes, I know I will cherish every second. This journey has taught me patience, resilience, and how deeply love can grow—even before a child is born.

Resources

Here are a few of the people, programs, and tools that supported us on our journey:

Final Words

To anyone reading this and still waiting—know that your story matters. You are not broken. You are not alone. Whether your path to parenthood is short or long, conventional or alternative, know that there is support, hope, and healing available to you.

Take care,
Rosy
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